further reading
Resources
Articles, Podcasts and Books:
INTIMATE PARTNER RELATIONSHIPS
When a partner feels they are carrying the burden of the emotional load, the impact is often low sexual desire towards their partner:
theconversation.com/dont-blame-women-for-low-libido-sexual-sparks-fly-when-partners-do-their-share-of-chores-including-calling-the-plumber
Arguments in relationships are normal! Strategies for getting it right.
ideas.ted.com/most-couples-need-to-be-fighting-more-not-less-heres-why-and-how-to-do-it/
Surprise, surprise, kindness is the essential ingredient that helps determine longevity in intimate-partner relationships!
theatlantic.com/health/archive/2014/06/happily-ever-after
The importance of accepting ambivalence in our relationships including intimate partner relationships, friendships, siblings, parents, our kids…
estherperel.com/blog/the-myth-of-unconditional-love-in-romantic-relationships
On couples merging finances:
theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/04/how-couples-should-manage-finances-hybrid-model
How doing the small things that make our partner happy is the right thing to do:
theatlantic.com/family/archive/2022/04/marriage-problems-fight-dishes
Relationship specialist ESTHER PERELL says “The quality of our relationships determines the quality of our lives.”
estherperel.com
ISOLATION AND LONLINESS
Fabulous article about aging, loneliness, and what one daughter did to address her vivacious mother’s dwindling circle of friends:
thecut.com/2022/08/helping-my-mom-make-friends.html
NERUODIVERSITY, BPD and ADHD
additudemag.com/what-is-borderline-personality-disorder-bpd-symptoms/
Women and girls with ADHD
harpersbazaar.com/culture/features/a41083545/adhd-in-adult-women/
Wild Things by Australian author Sally Rippin is the book she wishes she’d read when her neurodiverse dyslexic son was young.
BOOKS
The Seven Principles for Making Marriage Work, by John M. Gottman & Nan Silver
Not ‘Just Friends’ Rebuilding Trust and Recovering Your Sanity after Infidelity, by Shirley Glass & Jean Coppock Staeheli
Why Marriages Succeed or Fail: And How to Make Yours Last After The Affair, by John Gottman
Wired for Love, by Stan Takin
Reinventing Your Life, by Janet S. Klosko & Jeffrey Young
Getting The Love You Want: A Guide for Couples, by Harville Hendrix PhD
Julia Cameron’s The Artist Way (Cameron’s Morning Pages exercise is a brilliant practice!)
Anything by Jungian thinkers Robert Johnson, Joseph Campbell, Marion Woodman, Peter O’Connor, C.J. Jung’s Memories Dreams, Reflections, James Hillman
The Body Keeps the Score: Mind, Brain and Body in the Transformation of Trauma, by Bessel Van Der Kolk
Wild Things, by Sally Rippin is the book she wishes she’d read when her neurodiverse dyslexic son was a young boy.